Hi i have a problem that i have to solve?

i just recently became ual active and i would say i had probably 5 times but i notice i felt alot of pain during to the point i told the guy to get off me the first 2 time i brush it off because it suppose to hurt the first time you do it (well for some people) but i notice that the pain continue ever time i did it ummmmm. i dont know why that is maybe. some people say maybe i need to use the lubricated condoms or maybe i have to make sure i am really arouse because i never do?...ummmm well i dont know but if someone can help me on this that would be greatly appreciaed. cause i am beginning to worried a little